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Ex-etiquette: Worn down by ex
Q. I have no idea how to co-parent when my ex is such a jerk and is always telling me how I screwed up: I can’t parent the kids right. I don’t cook nutritious food. I drink too much.
I’m so beaten down I don’t want to talk to them about anything, let alone consult them about our kids. What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. My first thought ...Read more

Lori Borgman: This way to the road less traveled
We accidentally left for our vacation in Maine a day early. I take full credit — or blame — it depends on who tells the story. There’s nothing wrong with leaving a day early, except that when you get there you won’t have a place to stay.
A quick online search landed us a reservation just outside a picturesque New England town we’d ...Read more

Get ready for a tarot map of trauma, power and reclaimed lineage
Every anthology has to choose its organizing principle, but few feel as alive as the one guiding "Coven of the East: Reimagining Asian Women’s Magical Histories." Editors Angela Yuriko Smith and Pauline Chow map the 22 entries against the 22 Major Arcana of the Rider–Waite–Smith tarot. It’s a clever structure, intuitive, almost organic, ...Read more

Small town holiday romance with an enchanting twist
In "A Spell for Midwinter’s Heart," author Morgan Lockhart whisks the reader away into a small mountain town filled with magic. This book hits all the marks I want from a romance for the holiday season: cozy, fantastical, and filled with eclectic characters and local business owners rising up against the industrial complex.
Our protagonist, ...Read more

5 books featuring dark woods where dark things happen
There are countless reasons why the woods make for a great setting in novels.
In the woods, it’s easy for us to get lost, easy to think we’re progressing towards a destination only to find ourselves back where we started, easy to disappear. In the woods, technology is unreliable, and often we find it best to leave our phones behind. Our ...Read more
What To Do When The Creative Well Runs Dry
Q: I have to be creative in my job, but some days I'm just too worn out or uninspired. That stresses me and only makes things worse. Do you have any "hacks" for generating good ideas under pressure?
Jim: I think we've all had moments in life where we need help to get the creative juices flowing. Each of us is different; what works for one ...Read more
Which Kind of Country Will We Be?
My two boys recently got new passports. The little books are gorgeously designed.
On thick paper, drawings are etched of wheat fields and farmers, statues and monuments. Quotes from great Americans - former Presidents George Washington, Theodore Roosevelt and John F. Kennedy, as well as the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., -- top each page. The ...Read more

Family guide to new movie releases
'BLACK PHONE 2'
Rated R for strong violent content, gore, teen drug use, and language.
What it’s about: Siblings in 1982 Denver have to fend off the kiddie serial killer the Grabber who haunts them in their dreams.
The kid attractor factor: This is a fairly violent horror movie — not really for kids.
Good lessons/bad lessons: Families ...Read more

Commentary: The new talk -- The need to discuss AI with kids
“(I)t is a massively more powerful and scary thing than I knew about.” That’s how Adam Raine’s dad characterized ChatGPT when he reviewed his son’s conversations with the AI tool. Adam tragically died by suicide. His parents are now suing OpenAI and Sam Altman, the company’s CEO, based on allegations that the tool contributed to his ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: A trick or a treat?
Q. I am the proud mom of two very active boys and a 3-year-old little girl. They all tell me they want to trick-or-treat with their father and me, but we have been separated for almost two years now. We live close by, and I’m willing to try, but I have to admit, just thinking about it gives me anxiety. It sounds like a great idea, but a lot to...Read more

Lori Borgman: No time like the present or past or future, whatever
Because I love, love, love saving time, I am looking forward to the first weekend in November when the entire nation will save 60 minutes — not the Sunday night news program but an hour on the clock.
Of course, nobody likes to mention the fact that the only reason we are “saving” an hour is because an hour was stolen from us in the spring...Read more

The forgotten feminist dystopias that predicted our present
At a time when women’s rights are once again threatened, it’s worth looking back at what feminist authors warned us about decades ago. When Margaret Atwood published "The Handmaid’s Tale" in 1985, she was part of a powerful wave of women writing feminist dystopian science fiction, which we now call speculative fiction.
The late 20th ...Read more

Belonging after brokenness: One woman’s search for truth and healing
Wendy B. Correa’s new memoir "My Pretty Baby: Seeking Truth and Finding Healing," details a fascinating life defined by resilience and accomplishment in the face of childhood trauma and a dysfunctional family environment. As Correa deftly shows in this writing debut, life is not so much about what happens to you as it is what you do with what ...Read more
Parental Guidance Needed As Teen Explores Career Options
Q: My 15-year-old son seems to be thinking seriously about career choices and wondering what to do with his life as an adult. What can I do now to help him settle on a path and make wise plans for the future?
Jim: I'd suggest starting by exposing him to as many different occupations as possible. Give him a taste of the wide variety of career ...Read more
When It Comes to Halloween, I'm on the Supply Side of the Economy
I'm told that ours is a market economy -- driven by supply and demand, or end-stage capitalism at its finest.
But I find that around this time of year, as plastic skeletons hang from suburban rooftops and air-stuffed Jack-O-Lanterns droop in the October wind, things get a bit more banana republic. Or, more of a Banana Laffy Taffy Republic, I ...Read more
Parents Shouldn't Live in Fear of Child Protective Services
"Let me tell you about Alice," said Mariel Mussack, an attorney with Community Legal Services, testifying in the Pennsylvania state Legislature on Monday. Alice, Mussack said, is a single mom of two who was also caretaker for her younger brother, aged 13. When she needed to run a brief errand, Alice had her brother babysit her nearly 1-year-...Read more

Moms for Liberty shows muscle in South Carolina as statewide hopefuls pledge their support
COLUMBIA, S.C. — When South Carolina state Sen. Josh Kimbrell kicked off his campaign for governor inside of a restaurant in Inman, he brought out a table after his speech to sign a piece of paper.
It was the Moms for Liberty Parent Pledge, which he signed after promising to create an office of parental rights if he were elected governor.
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Family guide to new movie releases
TRON: ARES
Rated PG-13 for violence/action.
What it’s about: The third TRON movie sees the grid invading the real world as two tech companies strive for AI dominance.
The kid attractor factor: Not much. Maybe some appeal for teens in the aesthetic and spectacle.
Good lessons/bad lessons: AI is only as good as the person who wields it. ...Read more

UN: Kids in Haiti losing childhood amid displacements, hunger, violence
The number of children uprooted by Haiti’s spiraling gang violence has nearly doubled in the last year to 680,000, while those in need of humanitarian assistance now stands at just under a quarter of the country’s estimated 12 million population.
Meanwhile, with more than 1,600 schools directly affected by the violence – including 1,080 ...Read more

Ex-etiquette: Dealing with disrespect
Q. My ex just changed the email address that he uses to communicate with me to include a derogatory reference to me. It’s obvious what he’s doing, but I’m having a difficult time staying calm. What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. First and foremost, it’s important to acknowledge that any attempt to disrespect you, especially in a shared co-...Read more