Life Advice
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That's What Dogs Do
Dear Annie: I have lived in the same house for nearly 15 years and have always had a friendly relationship with my neighbors. About a year ago, a new family moved in next door with two large dogs. They seem like perfectly nice dogs, but my neighbors let them outside constantly -- early in the morning, throughout the day and sometimes well into ...Read more
My Time Doesn't Matter to Her
Dear Annie: I have been married to a dear man for more than 40 years, but for much of that time, I have felt as though we are not really a team.
My husband can be very kind in practical ways. He will happily run errands, fix things around the house and do small tasks for me. But when I truly need his support, especially during stressful or ...Read more
More His Roommate Than His Wife
Dear Readers: After my column in response to "Worried Daughter," who was concerned that her widowed mother was becoming increasingly isolated and dependent two years after her husband's death, readers wrote with thoughtful suggestions. Thank you to all, but especially to two readers for sharing your personal and professional experiences with ...Read more
Saving My Sleep With a Snorer
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 18 years, and I love him dearly. But lately, there are nights when I fantasize less about romance and more about having my own quiet bedroom.
My husband snores so loudly that I can hear him from the hallway with the bedroom door closed. It starts almost the minute his head hits the pillow. I ...Read more
Old Friend's Insult Is No Joke
Dear Annie: I walked away from a 50-plus-year friendship. I've known "Ralph," his wife and his kids since the late-1970s. We both worked construction. We never had a deep friendship; most men from the boomer generation don't. Ralph has a sense of humor that others would say is off-putting, including uncomfortable joking, but we went through ...Read more
A Cold War Over the Thermostat
Dear Annie: I'm 28 and live in a two-bedroom apartment in Washington state with my friend "Jess." She's an excellent roommate -- clean, considerate, quiet. I know I'm lucky. But there's one thing driving me crazy: the thermostat. She works from home and keeps the heat cranked to nearly 80 degrees! When I get home from the office, I start ...Read more
Aunt Won't Dish on Her Dishes
Dear Annie: My aunt has the strangest quality. I see her at every holiday and family party, and she always brings something delicious made from scratch. For my cousin's birthday, it was a key lime pie that disappeared within minutes. It was unreal.
On several occasions, I've asked her for the recipe. I like to cook, and she clearly has good ...Read more
Different Money Habits Than My Husband
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 12 years, and we agree on most things. We like the same kind of vacations, have similar values and rarely argue about family. Money, however, is our recurring sore spot.
I am a saver. I grew up in a household where unexpected expenses could throw everything into chaos, so having money set ...Read more
Cellphone Etiquette in Public
Dear Annie: I'm starting to wonder if headphones have gone out of style. Last week, I was sitting in a doctor's waiting room when a woman across from me put her phone on speaker and had a very loud, very personal conversation for nearly 20 minutes. Everyone in the room could hear about her sister, her husband and what sounded like an argument ...Read more
How To Manage a Bad Boss
Dear Annie: I have worked for the same company for six years and, until recently, truly enjoyed my job. I have always had strong reviews, good relationships with my co-workers and a reputation for being dependable.
Eight months ago, we got a new boss, and the entire mood of the office changed.
She rarely raises her voice or says anything ...Read more
I Think My Grandson Needs Counseling
Dear Annie: Two members of my extended family have ADHD. One is receiving counseling and medication year-round and is doing very well. My grandson, however, is being treated quite differently.
He takes medication for ADHD, but as far as I know, he is not receiving counseling or much help understanding what ADHD actually means. What worries me...Read more
Trauma Takes Its Toll on Teacher
Dear Annie: I've been a teacher for 19 years. I've quit my job and have what I think are panic attacks when I think about going back.
Throughout my career as a mandated reporter, I've had to call the authorities multiple times, and I've always been a shoulder for children who've been abused to cry on. I never let it interfere with my attitude...Read more
'Retired' Husband Puts Their Golden Years On Hold
Dear Annie: My husband retired last year after 40 years as an engineer, and we finally started planning the life we'd been talking about for decades: travel, hobbies, quality time together.
But three months after he retired, he accepted a series of offers for "small consulting projects." He accepted without checking with me, and since then, ...Read more
Parents' Generosity Has Its Price
Dear Annie: My fiance and I are getting married next spring, and my parents generously offered to help pay for the cost of the wedding. We were thrilled. Weddings are expensive, and money is tight.
But I quickly realized that this might actually be a mistake. Their contributions come with strings attached, and my mother seems to think this is...Read more
My Children's Stepmom May Be Overstepping
Dear Annie: I have been divorced for three years and share custody of my two children, ages 10 and 13. My ex-husband remarried about a year ago, and his wife is kind, involved and genuinely seems to care about my children. I know that is something to be grateful for.
The problem is that lately I feel as though she is trying to become their ...Read more
Co-Worker Takes All the Credit
Dear Annie: I have a close friend I have known for more than 20 years. We have been through marriages, children, job changes and plenty of ups and downs together. I love her and consider her almost like family.
Lately, though, I have started to notice that our friendship feels very one-sided. I am usually the one who calls, makes plans and ...Read more
Grandma Stuck Between Two Parenting Styles
Dear Annie: My husband and I absolutely adore our grandchildren, and spending time with them is one of the great joys of our lives. The problem is that our son and daughter-in-law have very different parenting styles, and we keep finding ourselves caught in the middle.
Our son is much more relaxed about things like bedtime, sweets and screen ...Read more
Friend's Interruptions Make Me Feel Invisible
Dear Annie: I have a best friend whom I love dearly, and we have been close for years. She is funny, generous and has been there for me during some difficult times. But lately I have noticed a pattern that is starting to wear on me.
Whenever I try to tell her something about my life, she interrupts before I can finish and somehow turns the ...Read more
Husband Crosses the Line Online
Dear Annie: My husband has recently become obsessed with Twitter. He spends hours a day on his computer away from his family. I've supported this unusual hobby until recently.
I noticed he and another female Tweeter calling each other "besties," and they have cute nicknames for each other. I confronted my husband about it, and he told me that...Read more
Family Chat or Political Forum?
Dear Annie: My entire extended family is in a group chat together. Sometimes it's fun, and sometimes it's useful, but most of the time it's just noisy. The worst offender is my cousin "Daniel." At least once a week, he sends political rants, tweets and reels to the chat. It's wearing on everyone, especially my mom's side of the family, which ...Read more












