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DEAR MISS MANNERS: For the past 15 years or so, my wife and I have been hosting a potluck feast for Thanksgiving, with about 30 friends and family joining us at our house.

In our invitation, we announce that we're supplying the turkey, soft drinks, booze and a few other staples, and ask others to bring an appetizer, side dish, dessert, etc. We ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the etiquette for who cooks the turkey for Thanksgiving dinner? We have family members who requested that our daughter cook and bring the turkey -- after she makes a 12-hour drive with two toddlers and her husband.

GENTLE READER: Whoops, etiquette does not have a rule designating the turkey cook.

Should it be the ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have an unusual, "made-up" first name. Nowadays it's common for kids to have a uniquely spelled name, but I'm in my 60s, so it wasn't common growing up.

The way I've managed it is: I only correct the pronunciation if I expect to see that person again. This way, I'm not constantly feeling rude by correcting everyone. And the...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A cousin and his wife, who are close to me, have an annoying habit of click-clicking on their phones while we are talking.

I am about 20 years older than them. I have a background in the arts and culture, and was once known as a trivia whiz, which I don't publicize. But this couple constantly fact-checks everything I say. And...Read more