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DEAR HARRIETTE: Last week, my mom told me that she was married and divorced before she met my dad. I am 35 years old, and she just shared this with me now. I was surprised because she has never mentioned this before. I had no idea there had been another marriage, and it feels weird that something so big was hidden from me for my whole life. She ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: After asking my dinner guests not to bring any dishes, some still do. My question is what do do when Person A shows up with a dish, and Person B -- lovely, lovely Person B, who was polite and kind enough to take me at my word -- sees the exchange.

Person B invariably gets embarrassed and asks if they should have brought ...Read more

Dear Annie: I am a 69-year-old man who is still totally and madly in love with my wife of 49 years. I know many people would say I'm foolish for feeling this way after she cheated on me several times during the early years of our marriage. At the time, I blamed myself. We were young, I felt responsible for providing for our growing family, and...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I was always the wild child and did pretty much what I wanted. My four siblings stuck to the straight and narrow. We stayed close and loving, though. We are old now, and they all lead very comfortable lives. I, however, became injured and gravely ill. I could no longer work and now live on supplemental security income and food stamps....Read more

Skip today's column if you're looking for startling new techniques guaranteed to benefit the children of mateless mothers like you. As much as I feel a special tenderness for young people who grow up with a single parent (my own son, Scott, was only 4 when he became part of a two-person family), what we're interested in right now is you. ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am 22 years old. While on vacation, I connected with a man on a gay dating app. Honestly, he fits the description for many things that I like in a guy: He has a stable job, owns his home, works toward his personal goals and ambitions and has a football player physique. However, many of his great qualities come with one caveat: ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I work in a fast-food restaurant, in which we only go by our first names.

Often, when customers decide that I am the cause of whatever is not going their way, they ask me for my name. My first name is clearly spelled out on my name tag, but I always say it for them anyway, as it is difficult to pronounce. It is an unusual ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I are at a full-blown spring break standoff, and the kids are watching it like it's a sport.

He wants to take our two kids skiing. He's already talking about "fresh powder," early lift tickets and how this is the perfect chance to make "core memories." He grew up skiing, and it's his happy place. I can see how ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I've been with my boyfriend for 17 years. He has a friend, "Byron," whom he hangs out with multiple times a week, sometimes up to six days. Byron's wife, "Crystal," (married 22 years) is always attached to Byron's hip. They do everything together.

Crystal needs to be the center of attention. She constantly brags about herself and ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently lost a significant amount of weight, and it has been a journey to adjust to a different lifestyle. The majority of my clothes don't fit me properly, my curves aren't as curvy as they used to be and many people feel it is OK to comment on my new body. I never hated my body no matter the size, but it has been difficult ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: People want to feel loved and cherished. An invitation to share a meal in your home is a special example. So when dinner guests ask me what they can bring, I tell them something specific: ÒOh, I would love some pink peonies. Those would be so beautiful.Ó Or I might request a bottle of maple syrup, or a recipe card for the ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm a 64-year-old woman who thought making new friends at my age would be simple: find someone kind, show up, bring snacks, repeat.

A few months ago, I met "Jill" at a community class. We clicked right away. She's funny in that dry, smart way that makes you feel like you're in on the joke. After class we started lingering in the ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I started attending a new church at the invitation of my significant other. I've been enjoying the services and sermons, but upon attending, I realized that my partner is quite popular with the ladies there -- which may be why he waited so long before inviting me. No one was rude to me, but I heard women whisper about ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My adult daughters learned etiquette from me. It was passed down from my mother. Somewhere along the line, the old etiquette has been forgotten and new manners have been invented by their husbands.

Examples of the new etiquette are:

-- Arms on the table.

-- One foot on the chair with the knee sticking up over the table.

--...Read more