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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have three adult grandchildren I love and adore. Unfortunately, when they were growing up, I didn't see them often; they lived three hours away from my husband, so I saw them only for the holidays. Now that they are adults, all three of them have moved across the country, which makes the three hours seem like nothing. I regret ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: In my high-rise condominium building, I must leave my flat and travel (generally via carpeted hallways and elevators) to various common areas in the building to deposit trash and collect mail. The whole building, including all common areas, has a single, guarded entrance, through which only residents and guests may pass.

What...Read more

Dear Annie: Kids today are pushed too early to make career decisions. The first two years of college are a good time to take different courses to see where one's interest lies. A major can easily be declared as a junior, and ample credits can be accumulated in that discipline in the last couple of years.

I took a career test in school that said...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My son married a lovely woman, "Noelle," two years ago. They live a couple of hours away and have a 1-year-old son, my third grandchild. Noelle's parents live 10 miles from my home. She and the baby go there nearly every weekend but NEVER come by mine. I haven't seen them since the baby's birthday five months ago.

My daughter lives ...Read more

The pause was brief, but stark, when some of us realized that a square on the Zoom was located in Minneapolis. There wasn't much to say as a reaction that hadn't been said before. The awkward dance feels as normal now as debating the right time to make eye contact and say hello to someone heading down the same hallway as you.

We have ...Read more

Dear Annie: My grandson, "Billie" is 5 years old and still not potty trained. We have tried everything to get him to use the toilet -- rewards, bribes, "gentle threats," etc. We suspect he has encopresis -- the repeated, involuntary passing of stool into the clothing. This can happen when impacted stool collects in the colon and rectum, while ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am a 31-year-old woman who is not yet established in life. I have no husband or boyfriend, no kids and no clear direction for a career. I start new, low-level jobs often. My problem is that I look deceptively young for my age. At most, I look 18 or 19.

These employers, co-workers and supervisors treat me differently, and some talk ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My mom often criticizes me because I live an untraditional life, and it worries her at times. I understand she has good intentions, but I am too old for her to dictate the way I live. I am a digital nomad and have been traveling around Asia and Australia for the past three years. I work remotely and make enough to travel and even...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Our dear friends Hank and Bridget have been married for more than 35 years. Each had been married previously and had one child each, and they have a child together. That child is now a married adult.

Here is the rub. Since her two half-siblings are each more than 10-15 years older, she has been treated like an only child and ...Read more

Dear Annie: I was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months ago. I've been through surgery and radiation treatments. According to the oncologists, I should now consider myself a "survivor." Since I have scars, I'm taking medication for the next 10 years that has potentially really bad side effects, and the chance of reoccurrence is a definite ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My mother passed away six years ago. She was a manipulative woman who had alienated all family members except my adult son. She promised him a sizable amount of money when she passed but didn't follow through. As the fiduciary of my parents' estate, I followed their trust directives as written, with no exceptions.

My son received a ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently went on a date with a man for drinks, and at first I thought I might be interested in seeing him again. We texted briefly after the date, but the more I reflected on our interaction, the more I realized he wasn't the type of man I want to be with. Initially, I planned to stop responding to his messages, but he ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am appalled at the current practice on TV home decor shows of placing books with their titles to the wall. It is a huge fad.

I keep waiting for one of the hosts to realize that anyone who actually might read a book would walk into that home and assume the people who live there don't know what a book is for. Your opinion?

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Dear Annie: I've been happily married for 18 years, and for most of that time I've slept poorly -- but lately it's become unbearable. My husband falls asleep within minutes and snores loudly and steadily through the night. I lie awake listening, nudging him, turning him onto his side, putting in earplugs, rearranging pillows and counting the ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship for almost two years with an incredible man who makes my heart sing. We are both in our mid-30s. I have three children. He has one whom, for lack of better words, his own parents co-parent.

We are at the point in our relationship where I want to marry, move in together and do the whole family thing. He ...Read more