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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who is an immigrant, and he has been out of work for nearly two years. He has cobbled together enough money to scrape by, but if he doesn't find a job soon, I worry that he will lose his apartment. He has a few close friends, myself included, who have helped him whenever we can, but it's getting to be too much. I,...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Several years ago, a divorced woman exactly my age moved in next door. I liked her very much and tried to become friends with her.

Although she was chatty enough outside the house, she never invited me in, and the few times I invited her, she had other things to do. I eventually gave up and settled for the occasional brief ...Read more

Dear Annie: I am the default holiday host for my extended family. My parents are divorced and both come, my sister arrives late and stressed with her kids, my brother shows up with whatever new girlfriend he is serious about, and my mother uses the whole day to quietly criticize everyone's life choices, starting with mine.

By the time we sit ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My sister, "Blanche," and I didn't grow up together after she turned 13. I was 6 at that time, and our grandmother raised her. We talked on the phone a lot until I was 45 and my husband died. Blanche then convinced me to move to her state. When I received the insurance payout, she talked me into buying a property with two houses -- ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I want to take a vacation with my best friend, but I don't have the money to do so right now, and I feel incredibly embarrassed about it. We typically take a trip together every year, and it's something we both look forward to because it helps us reconnect and make memories. This year, however, everything is different: I lost my ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was in line at a busy cosmetics store. The line wasn't moving very fast when the woman behind me asked me to save her place: She said an employee had forgotten to give her something, and she had to get it. I was approximately fifth in line and there were at least that many people waiting behind me.

I looked at the people ...Read more

Dear Annie: Lately, I feel like I am running everyone's life but my own.

I work full time, I have two school-aged kids, and my husband is a good man but seems to think the house, the calendar, the social life and the emotional needs of the whole family magically manage themselves. Spoiler alert: They do not. I do.

I am the one who remembers ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My son has completely given up on dating. Whether it's blind dates, casual meetings with members from our church or dating events I pay for and make him go to, he still hasn't found a wife. At 36, he should already have children and a partner, but despite the best efforts of my wife and me, he remains unmarried.

Our son is 6 feet ...Read more

I think I saw my first TikToker in the wild.

For a split second, I thought it might be a politician filming a video. He wore a black vest, a burgundy shirt, and a cowboy hat, and he repeated the same forceful upward motion with his hand. He'd freeze, lean toward a phone on a stand, and do the same routine again.

He had an older white work ...Read more

Dear Annie: I have a friend, "Marcy," whom I've known for about six years through a mutual group of acquaintances. She was very kind when my mother was alive, often coming over to help, and she has also helped with my kids. Over time we became friends. Marcy is single, on disability and doesn't drive. I'm married and work full time, and I've ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My parents were married for 50 years. My dad remarried a nice lady a year after Mom died. Within two months of meeting her, they were engaged.

Dad made more than a few missteps, including announcing the engagement on Facebook before informing Mom's sister, inviting the new wife to Mom's delayed out-of-town memorial service, bragging ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My next-door neighbor has two young children and often seems to be stressed out. She is married, and her husband helps out some, but most of the work falls to her. I see her looking exhausted all the time. The lights are on in her house before dawn. I can see her cooking from my kitchen window. There's always a pot on and dishes ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: In 2023, I gave my husband's niece a lovely wedding shower at a restaurant. It included lunch and mimosas. The luncheon was about $1,500 with gratuity. I also paid for the cake, favors and game prizes, to the tune of another $500. I also gave a gift ($100). Later that year, my husband gave the bride and groom another gift from...Read more

Dear Annie: In 1996, I met a man while traveling. At the time, I was a single mom of three in a new city and state away from family. I was struggling with finances, child care and transportation. My family and I weren't close and had many disagreements, so I moved far away. When I arrived at my destination, this man got off with me and did not ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My sister recently became very ill and had to be hospitalized for four days. When I called and told our daughter, she was concerned and supportive. Then, I called our son, "Isaac," and left a message to please call me because it was important. He did not return my call.

A couple days later, my husband left another message for Isaac ...Read more