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Asking Eric: After brother’s death, his terrible wife wants to stay in touch

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My husband’s brother was a nice guy, albeit boring and a conversation hog. But he was family and we invited him, along with his wife and son, to our home over the years (they lived 500 miles away). He passed away three years ago.

His wife is one of the nastiest people I’ve ever met. She was verbally abusive to her husband, ...Read more

Parent Wants To Support Daughter With Dyslexia

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My 9-year-old daughter has dyslexia; it has been difficult for her academically. Every night, she cries when she has to do her reading homework because she keeps getting words mixed up. I've tried to get her extra help by taking her to a dyslexia learning center, but she cries when she has to go there as well. She tells me it ...Read more

'it's Not You -- Well, Actually, It Is'

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do you go about declining when someone who just isn't your type asks you out or asks for your phone number?

I have been nice and said things like, "I'm not dating right now," or even, "I really only want to date someone of my faith."

Some men just don't seem to get the hint. How do you politely say, "It's you, personally...Read more

Showing Up Sick Is Selfish, Not Brave

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I genuinely like my job and most of the people I work with. We are a small office, so we see a lot of each other, share the same kitchen and bump into one another all day long. Normally that is fine, but lately one co-worker has turned cold and flu season into his own personal hobby.

I will call him "Carl." Carl has a special ...Read more

Husband Gambles Away Retired Couple's Nest Egg

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My husband developed an addiction to slot machines, but I didn't realize it. He would leave the house in the early morning before I woke up. Abby, he gambled away every single asset we had accumulated during our 58 years of marriage -- somewhere around $600,000! I found out after he asked his grown children for "grocery money."

We ...Read more

Asking Eric: 70-year-old fears he is a sugar daddy

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I am regretfully asking myself if I have morphed into a de facto sugar daddy. I'm in a four-year live-in relationship with a 42-year-old woman. I am 70.

Many might think the 28-year age gap is prima facie evidence of a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. However, to date, the relationship has been the best, as it has been adorned ...Read more

A Fantasy That Raises Questions

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and our intimate life has always been great. Lately, though, over the past couple of months, he's become interested in role-playing. He loves to play the husband with a mistress, saying things like, "Don't let my wife catch us," or "I hope your husband doesn't come home and find us."...Read more

Spouse Of Serial Cheater Is Ready To Even The Score

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are approaching our 40th anniversary. Friends and family have already begun to mention the upcoming milestone. While I politely acknowledge the event, I hide my indifference. You see, my wife has always been a serial cheater. It's a secret I have kept from everyone, especially our children.

Because she has always been a...Read more

Asking Eric: Students give teacher gifts but her boyfriend objects

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I have been a preschool teacher for more than 20 years. There are a few times throughout the year where the kids and their parents give us gifts, which of course is optional. Those occasions are Christmas, Valentine's Day, Teacher Appreciation Week and Graduation.

I have never asked for, nor do I expect to receive gifts from the ...Read more

Grieving Reader Regrets Wishing For More Time

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My mother passed away earlier this year, and I'm still sad. She lived as long as she could with a smile on her face most times. I recently looked at photos of her over the past couple of years, and it broke my heart; she was so frail. We always thought she held on just to be able to be with us, her children and families and ...Read more

One Black Hole To Disappear Into, Please

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I attended a music festival, where I wore pasties instead of a top. While there, I actually ran into a group of co-workers, who all had a good laugh at seeing me in such a state of undress.

When I return to work, should I address the incident in any way, or should I pretend it never happened? Do I just laugh it off? I am ...Read more

Picking Up the Pieces After Being Left Behind

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm wrapping up a HORRIBLE, out-of-the-blue abandonment divorce from my soon-to-be ex-husband.

In 2023, I came home from teaching kindergarten to find out my ex took the majority of our furniture and moved out of state. He blocked me and erased me as if I didn't exist. It took several months to locate him with a private detective....Read more

Generous Favor Is Rewarded With Lies And Abuse

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don't know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centered, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them ...Read more

Asking Eric: Brother bullies siblings over aging mother’s care

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: My mother is in her last months of life. She has been cared for in her home for the last three years by increasingly expensive home health care workers. I and other siblings have suggested over and over that she be put in a care home for round-the-clock care, but our oldest sibling (we’ll call them Jimmy) has steadfastly refused, ...Read more

Friend Seems Reluctant To Show Support

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: A friend of mine constantly preaches to us about the importance of showing support to each other through good times, bad times, startup businesses, financial hardship, graduations, milestones and everything else under the sun. Over the years, though, it seems to be getting harder for her to practice what she preaches.

Recently, ...Read more

Creepy Mansplainer Outdoes Himself

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a female student, and I have a situation where a male classmate inappropriately chimes in on personal conversations. For example, I was asking my friends about a type of bra, and later that day, this classmate followed me to my car and gave me a tutorial about bras.

The crazy thing is he didn't seem to notice that I was ...Read more

Missing Intimacy in an Otherwise Good Marriage

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been married for 27 years, and by most measures we have a good, steady life. We're healthy, financially secure and get along well. There's no infidelity or drama.

The problem is there's no romance or passion either. I've started to feel deeply lonely in my marriage.

My husband is kind and dependable but distant. He's gone ...Read more

Treatment Of Elderly Mother Raises Couple's Hackles

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married for 30 years. Unfortunately, my wife's family (two older sisters and her mother, who is 97) have rejected not only me, but now my wife. While our relationship with my mother-in-law is cordial, our relationship with her sisters is poor.

Recently, her sisters put their mother into an elder care facility ...Read more

Asking Eric: Wellness check severs decades-old friendship

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I'm a 73-year-old female who happily maintained a friendship I made my freshman year in college.

Two years ago, I noticed changes in my friend's ability to carry on conversations and her lack of awareness of current events. After Covid's isolation, she and her husband seldom left their house, and her husband spent more time on his ...Read more

Boyfriend Refuses To See Doctor About Moodiness

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: How long do you stay in a relationship when it doesn't seem to be healthy? I've been with my boyfriend for nine years. At first it was great, though he has always been moody. Now his moods are the driving force of the relationship. I never know how he is going to act when I see him. He can be kind one minute and hostile the next....Read more