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Dear Annie: I had my kids in my early 20s, which felt right for me and my husband at the time. We live in New York City, where most parents we meet had children much later in life. At school events, playdates or birthday parties, we're often the youngest parents in the room -- sometimes by more than a decade.

While everyone is polite, I can't...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm struggling with the end of a friendship that has meant the world to me for most of my life. My best friend of 25 years recently married someone she had known for only a few months. I was surprised how quickly things moved, but I respected her decision and was genuinely happy for her.

During one of our last meaningful ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband and I haven't been able to get a good night's rest in over a year. My 8-year-old daughter still insists on sleeping in our bed with us almost every night, and I'm at a loss for what to do. It started a few years ago when she had some nightmares, and I let her sleep with us to help her feel safe. Now it's become a habit...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Suppose Miss Jones marries Mr. Smith and decides, for whatever reason, to retain her maiden name. She is still deserving of the married honorific, is she not?

Is "Mr. Smith and Mrs. Jones," therefore, the proper form to put on an envelope, to be followed by street address, city and state?

GENTLE READER: Deserving? "Deserving...Read more

Dear Annie: I'll be starting college this fall, and while I'm excited to grow academically, I'm also looking forward to making new friends and maybe even finding a boyfriend. But I already know one thing: I don't plan on sharing many details about my romantic life with friends -- if I mention it at all.

Here's why: I've noticed that when ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are retired and on Social Security. We've both worked hard all our lives and are content living a modest retirement. Our house is paid for, and we have little debt. However, we're both experiencing physical and mental decline. I worry about our house. We aren't able to clean and maintain it like we used to because of ...Read more

I don't want to write today. There wasn't much to say after watching the horrors scrolling on my phone. Whatever I could try to shape into language feels inadequate against a video that rewires your nervous system.

It showed women and children waiting in line outside a clinic, and then they weren't. They were bombed. There was a bloody white ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm 45 and trying to move forward after the end of a 15-year marriage that left me emotionally and financially depleted. In my early 20s, I was an ambitious, college-educated overachiever who fell in love with a charming, carefree man. He had no real goals, had flunked out of college and was working part-time in fast food. But I ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm 29 and in a 10-year relationship with my boyfriend, "Justin." Things have been rocky since his business went under last year. For months, I have been working 10 shifts a week at two jobs to cover our bills, including a mortgage. Barely seeing each other has put a strain on our relationship.

I never intended to develop feelings ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I hate my new manager. She's new to the team, and it is clear to everyone that her priority is asserting dominance and making sure her voice is heard and her name is known. Plot twist: She's my cousin!

When my cousin asked me to introduce her to the higher-ups at my job for a referral, I was elated. She has a stellar resume, and...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A car wash I patronize has two single-occupant washrooms, one labeled "Men," the other "Ladies." I had availed myself of the men's room, and as I was closing the door, someone pushed it open.

I stepped back, and in walked a 30-something woman. She closed the door, locked it and smiled at me as she walked by.

The men's ...Read more

Dear Annie: My sister lives across the country and recently lost her husband. She doesn't have much of a support system nearby, and she's not in good health and can't get around well at all. She can barely take care of herself, never mind her little dog. Her home has serious issues because it's been poorly maintained. I haven't been able to go...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I began experiencing migraines occasionally as a teenager, but in my early 20s, they became a regular occurrence. I tried unsuccessfully for years to identify my triggers, cutting things from my diet and environment before realizing about a year ago that I'm triggered by smoke.

My husband -- my best friend and the love of my life -- ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I started my current job during the COVID-19 pandemic, and at that time, everyone was working from home. This year, my employer has asked that we all begin working in the office again full-time. I live over an hour away from the office, and the commute is excessive. The cost of gas continues to rise, but my salary has not changed...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: About a year ago, I met the man of my dreams, and he and I are planning a future together. I have a wonderful group of friends -- we are all in our 60s and 70s, and get together often for fun activities -- and I feel so fortunate that he and my friends adore each other. We have enjoyed many fun times with the group.

We joined...Read more

Dear Annie: I have a frustrating problem with my mother. I'm 40 years old, but she still treats me like I'm a teenager. She expects me to answer every call immediately and freaks out if I'm unavailable, often roping in my cousin to text me if I don't respond since my mom doesn't know how.

This has been going on since I was a teen. When I was ...Read more