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The Social Weight of a Plate

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a good friend "Amy," who is a great lady. We've known each other for about 15 years, but we reconnected about two years ago and started attending events together, including dinners that range from casual to fine dining. We're both in our late 40s and single. She's a mom of three almost-grown adults who she raised without her...Read more

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Pitch-A-Friend wants you to be the wingmate

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

MINNEAPOLIS -- Dressed in “Team Lisa” T-shirts, two friends posing as savvy business-minded “Sharks” ran through a tight presentation of why any potential investor in the audience would be smart to date their friend.

“When you invest in Lisa you invest in your own future,” they said, as part of their “Shark Tank”-themed ...Read more

Asking Eric: Gift exchange tradition grows tiresome

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: How does one politely suggest to an in-law's relative that we don't need to exchange Christmas gifts? My significant other and I are at the stage in life where we really do not need more "stuff" and would rather not deal with gifts that are generic at best and usually are re-gifted promptly via donation or gift-economy communities.

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Bring Your Own Everything

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I received an invitation for a work-sponsored event. The invitation states: "To help us minimize our environmental footprint and make cleanup easier, we kindly ask that you bring your own silverware, plate and beverage container."

So, when I arrive, I will be toting a plate, some silverware (not sure if I will need a knife or...Read more

Tired of Being Outdone

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I love my sister dearly, but she's one of those people who always has to top everyone's story. If I mention I had a bad cold, she'll say hers turned into pneumonia. If I get a compliment at work, she'll mention a big promotion she got years ago. Family gatherings have become exhausting because every conversation somehow circles ...Read more

Wife Carries On Communicating With Former Best Friend

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My best friend of more than 10 years, "Ian," ghosted me! We used to talk about everything -- wives, children, jobs. We spent hours together and helped each other sort out our problems. He knew more about me than my wife. With no explanation, he stopped responding to texts and messages and is ignoring my calls. I have come to terms ...Read more

Asking Eric: Acquaintance is friendly in real life but ignores on Facebook

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: I have a friend I've known for four years. We all live in a 55+ community and have moved here from different areas of the country. We are a group of women who get together on a regular basis for outings.

Over the past couple of months, I feel somewhat left out because of a couple of events I wasn't included in. But what I'm trying to...Read more

Cheap Friends Won't Stop Complaining About Prices

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: Two of my friends are extremely cheap, and it's getting to the point where it's hard to enjoy doing anything with them. We all live in New York City, and as you know, the cost of simply existing here is high. Yet they complain about every price tag, subway fare or coffee that costs more than $3, even splitting an Uber when it's ...Read more

The Straightforward 'ouch' Is A Classic For A Reason

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was at the head of a line to vote; the precinct wasn't crowded, and no one's wait was long. The precinct volunteer encountered a problem that prompted her to seek help, and I spent my wait looking at the floor rather than staring in her direction, not wanting her to misinterpret my gaze as annoyance (the wait was no big deal...Read more

Caught Between Sister and Aunt

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My sister, "Ellen," has an extensive history of being the victim of sexual abuse, which has caused her a lot of trauma. I'm so proud of all the work she has done to process and work through much of this. However, she tends to have very skewed and strong views on most things. We often see situations, past and present, in almost ...Read more

Argumentative, Abusive Brother Alienates Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have a brother who is very opinionated and in my face any time I don't agree with him. It doesn't matter what the subject is; he thinks he's the only one who knows anything about it. He is not educated, but he thinks he's smarter than everyone else, even educated people.

He won't let me get a word in while he's yelling and ...Read more

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Ask Anna: How do I tell if a guy is moving slowly or wasting my time?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Dear Anna,

I’m 28 and have been seeing a guy around my age for a few months. We clicked fast in conversation — texting every day and even saying good night, sharing long voice notes, that kind of early-stage excitement — but because of work and conflicting schedules, we’ve only managed a handful of actual dates.

Last week was my ...Read more

Single File: Core Questions (Part 3)

Life Advice / Single File /

You've reached the last of the survey's core questions, but this is no finale. Next week highlights lifestyle-related questions and responses. Let's dive back in.

--Are you or do you plan to be sexually faithful to your partner? (About 39 percent said yes.)

--Has your sex life as a single person lived up to your expectations?

--Does ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I ask about his long-term goals?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Today, let’s look at two different questions from two different clients. As always, if one person asks, I can only assume it is applicable to a larger audience.

And, interestingly enough, you’ll see that these questions are applicable to any gender and any age.

Q: I wanted to have a conversation with (him) about his more long-term goals ...Read more

Asking Eric: Still-married grandson wants to bring his new girlfriend to visit

Life Advice / Asking Eric /

Dear Eric: Our grandson, who is still married but separated from his wife of five years, wants to visit at Christmas for a week with his new girlfriend. We would love for him to visit but not with any new friend.

How can we tell him without hurting his feelings and damaging our relationship? Or should we open up our home to him and his new ...Read more

Friend Doesn't Want To Plan Every Gathering

Life Advice / Sense & Sensitivity /

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend expects me to handle every single detail whenever we hang out: choosing the activity, making the reservations, checking hours and figuring out travel time. The moment we decide to do something, she defaults to, "You pick!" or "Just tell me where to go!" I've told her multiple times, in clear and honest ways, that I don'...Read more

Use Humor To Shoo Colleagues Out Of Office

Life Advice / Miss Manners /

DEAR MISS MANNERS: As part of my job as a news reporter, I spend a great deal of time on the telephone. The conversations I have require a lot of concentration. Often, I have been waiting all day to hear from someone and am up against a strict deadline when he or she finally calls. I must answer when the phone rings.

Many times, other members ...Read more

Gently Supporting a Sister in Need

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Clara," moved to my town last spring after a painful breakup. She was fragile, devastated and desperate for a fresh start. I opened my home and my heart without hesitation. I drove her to job interviews, invited her for dinner several nights a week, included her in outings with friends and did everything a big ...Read more

Unwelcome Advances May Threaten Longtime Friendship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm struggling with my integrity and an important friendship. My friend "Beth's" husband, "Jerry," came to my house to help with a construction project. After discussing the project, we sat down to visit for a bit. He was very forward with me and overly affectionate. (It's been 10 years since I've had any affection.) He also talked ...Read more

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Commentary: Could China's divorce reforms inspire fairer American marriages?

Life Advice / Dating Advice /

Marriage rates in the United States have plummeted nearly 60% since 1970, hitting historic lows amid rising divorce risks and financial pitfalls. This decline isn’t primarily a gender war but a finance-based crisis: The specter of divorce as a wealth transfer discourages commitment.

Enter China’s bold 2025 divorce law reforms, effective Feb...Read more