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Ask Dating Coach Erika: What if I can't tell what they look like in their profile?
As someone who views hundreds or maybe even thousands of dating profiles per week, let’s just say that I’ve seen a lot of dating profile photos. Too many dating profile photos. So, I know a thing or two about a good photo. I know even more about a bad picture ... and how one seemingly deceptive photo can turn into a left swipe faster than ...Read more
Asking Eric: New friend group brings up old insecurities
Dear Eric: After 38 years of military and Department of Defense service, I retired and moved to my current home eight years ago (in a town I've never lived in before). I became friends with a woman two years ago and she introduced me to her larger circle of friends (about 19 women). Since then, I've become close with her and her best friend and ...Read more
Husband Refuses To Help With Basic Tasks
DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband and I got into a fight, and I feel like it revealed a lot about what he thinks about me. For context, I was going on a work trip for two days, and I asked my husband if he could take care of the dog and be there when the handyman came over to fix our bathroom sink. I had already scheduled the time when the handyman was...Read more
Let's Presume Good Intentions -- Most Of The Time
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When did people become so insecure that they take offense at pretty much everything?
I've noticed a huge shift. Compliments given by strangers are now considered an insult or an attack against their feelings. A mom is insulted, a woman with a pretty hairstyle is offended, someone with a nice outfit is annoyed. "You look nice ...Read more
Wife's Memory Is Fading Fast
Dear Annie: I think my partner is slipping away from me, and I do not know how to reach for her without breaking both our hearts.
My wife, "Laura," is 68. We have been together for 40 years. She has always been the organized one. When the kids were young, she could tell you where every permission slip, tax form and missing sock lived in our ...Read more
Demands Of Career Have Put A Damper On Dreams
DEAR ABBY: I am in my early 30s and happy in certain aspects of my life: I recently moved to a house and married a man I love very much. I have friends, hobbies and dreams. One of these dreams is to be a novelist, although I do marketing for a tech company right now.
This brings me to my problem: I have been feeling depressed by my job. Working...Read more
Asking Eric: Couple has everything but still makes wedding registry
Dear Eric: A friend is planning his second marriage. It will be his fiancée’s third. Both are in their mid-to-late 60s, have owned their single-family homes for many years, and have reasonably well-paying jobs.
They are planning a wedding shower and have registered for gifts, including expensive kitchen equipment and utensils, china, ...Read more
Breaking Free From My Phone
Dear Annie: I am starting to feel like my whole life is lived through a screen, and I am ashamed to admit how much control my phone seems to have over me.
I am 42 and married, with two kids in middle school. On paper, things are fine. In reality, I spend more time scrolling than actually living my life. I pick up my phone "just to check one ...Read more
Jilted Wife Blames Herself For Marriage's Collapse
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband and I were best friends. We shared everything -- dreams, laughs and struggles. I was convinced we'd grow old together. When he proposed, I said yes without hesitation. We had plans to start a family, but he asked me to wait until we purchased a home. I waited five years, trusting that the dream we had built together was ...Read more
Asking Eric: Parents kept up relationship with son’s ex after infidelity
Dear Eric: About 14 years ago our son was seriously dating a woman whom both my wife and I really adored. We both thought she would be a great wife and daughter-in-law.
She became the daughter we always wanted to have.
Then the unspeakable happened. She cheated on him. They broke up, yet remained friends, but she claimed she had adopted us as ...Read more
Expectations Unclear In Relationship
DEAR HARRIETTE: I don't feel secure in my current relationship. I feel like the guy I have been seeing is going to ghost when it takes him a while to respond, even if things seem fine on the surface. We have this odd dynamic where I am always excited about anything he suggests for a date, but whenever I try to initiate the plans, he has a weird ...Read more
'happy Anniversary, And/Or Sorry About Your Marriage'
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was in my friend's wedding a year ago, and now her anniversary is coming up. However, in the last six months, it does not seem like the marriage is going well, and I'm honestly not sure if the couple is still together.
This leads me to wonder whether I should even mention her anniversary on the day. I think texting "Happy ...Read more
Longing to Connect With a Quiet Son
Dear Annie: My son lives at home, but he has no interest in talking to me. He doesn't eat meals with me and my husband. He just stays in his room and comes downstairs to cook his own food, which is invariably a pan-fried sandwich, possibly with air-fried breaded chicken, followed by crisps and a packet of biscuits. It's a shame. I'd love to have...Read more
Husband Makes a Poor Choice with Wife's Health
DEAR ABBY: Two years ago, my husband was told that our adult child's partner had tested positive for COVID two days before we were scheduled to visit them. My husband -- a forever Good Time Charlie -- decided not to inform me. Neither of us at that point had contracted COVID. We had taken every precaution we could to avoid it.
I have MS, which ...Read more
Asking Eric: Adult son’s belongings fill up parents’ house
Dear Eric: One of my husband's son's is going through an ongoing divorce, many years.
A few years ago, he started storing equipment, tools, bikes, and more in our garage, attic, shed and basement. Our garage is packed to the ceiling, and we cannot use it for many of our own things. We felt badly for him when he first told us of his "plight", ...Read more
Losing My Nephew to Family Politics
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law has disliked me for as long as I can remember. I've never fully understood why, but over the years she's made her feelings clear in a hundred small ways -- cold shoulders at family gatherings, pointed comments and a general effort to keep me at arm's length. I've always tried to rise above it for the sake of the ...Read more
Asking Eric: COVID practices still cause rift between mother and daughter-in-law
Dear Eric: In 2020, my now-wife and I were engaged. My mother is a nurse and has asthma and was deeply hit with mental and emotional stress from the pandemic. She would not attend most wedding planning events and would always be concerned with germs, wearing an N95 mask and keeping her distance.
My wife had a completely opposite reaction to the...Read more
Merry Christmas, No Matter How You Celebrate
Dear Readers: I want to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
Christmas is a very busy time of year filled with strong emotions both happy and sad. The joy and the arguments can each feel louder.
Some of you woke up to wrapping paper everywhere, excited kids, pets eating the bows and a sink full of sticky mugs. You're ...Read more
Single File: Lifestyle Questions From the Survey (Part 3)
These are responses from the largest population represented in the survey, single parents whose children were at home. Confession: The issues in this section are intricate (and numerous) because of my own years as a single mom. They are irreplaceable in my memory, a learning experience never to be forgotten. (Sigh.) Onward:
--Are you more ...Read more
Asking Eric: Negative friend threatens to ruin shared vacation
Dear Eric: Three friends and I are planning an eight-day cruise in January.
Two other people found out about the trip and are now coming as well. We are fine with that but are not looking to make it a larger group and I am definitely not looking to turn into the "cruise director" for the group as often seems to happen.
There is one friend that...Read more
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