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Hosting Without Reciprocity
Dear Annie: I have a dear friend of 49 years. She has been married for more than 50, while I only married seven years ago. She stood beside me as my matron of honor, and over the years, we have shared so many memories, laughs and life milestones together.
Since my marriage, my husband and I have hosted this couple for dinner more times than I...Read more
Sister's 'Gifts' Can Do More Harm Than Good
DEAR ABBY: My sister is cheap. She's also not good at choosing gifts for people. Often, the things she gives are worse than if she'd done nothing at all. An example: She was just here visiting and brought my 4-year-old a toy car she'd picked up at a garage sale (fine, so far), but one of the wheels was broken off. She had the wheel in her purse ...Read more
Asking Eric: Family thinks brother is too wealthy to be included in tradition
Dear Eric: My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. He has three siblings, and it seems like he’s the forgotten one. His mom and siblings always put money together and send it for each other’s birthdays. Last year and the year before that, they did it for everyone’s birthday except my husband.
He was very upset about it but...Read more
When Neighbors Get Loud
Dear Annie: I recently moved into a new townhome, and for the most part, I love it here. It's quiet, cozy and exactly what I wanted for this next chapter of my life. That is, until my new neighbors moved in upstairs.
It's a couple with a dog. The dog is an angel -- never barks, never causes a problem. The issue is the husband. From morning ...Read more
Millennial Life: The Thin Veil Between Us
As her three kids steadily picked through the large orange bowl for all the remaining chocolate, she said she remembered when my husband had started his office. The first Halloween was in a pandemic, but there was a driveway. He dressed up in a fake hazmat suit and real mask to give candy to kids in the backseats whose trick-or-treating had been...Read more
Asking Eric: Between affairs and a secret crypto account, wife can’t trust husband anymore
Dear Eric: My husband “Bob” and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this past spring. He has many wonderful qualities, but he’s also a “lone wolf” who very rarely asks for my input or help.
A few months before he retired, I discovered he’d gone on a hike with a young, pretty coworker.
Many years before, he’d had a two-year affair ...Read more
Betrayed at Home
Dear Annie: I returned home from a trip recently to find my world turned upside down. While I was away, my daughter, her husband and my two grandchildren, who live in a camper on my property, broke into my home. They forced their way into my bedroom, the basement where I store my late husband's antiques, my sheds, my grain bin and even cut the...Read more
Asking Eric: Husband keeps giving wife socks; they remind her of a terrible experience
Dear Eric: My husband of more than 20 years gives me slipper socks with grippy soles. I hate them! We live in a hot climate, so I have little use for them. They filled up my sock drawer and they retraumatize me every time I touch them.
I threw them away and they came back. He gave me five more pairs at Christmas. I kept these for animal first ...Read more
Happily Married, but Hardly Intimate
Dear Annie: I'm 73, and my wife is 74. We've been married for 53 years and have never spent a night apart due to marital conflict. Admittedly, each of us may have spent a night or two on the couch, but my point here is that I think we're still happily married.
The problem is that we've not been intimate for nearly 10 years. The closest we get...Read more
Asking Eric: Yoga teacher follows coworker obsessively
Dear Eric: I completed a yoga teacher training (YTT), which I only shared with family. During the YTT, the studio posted pics on social media, and I was in one pic.
Within hours, Sue, a coworker, sent me a screenshot of the post and asked if it was me. I confirmed. Thereafter, Sue began frantically texting me about how she wanted to attend a ...Read more
When Tough Love Turns Too Tough
Dear Annie: My husband, "Keith," and I have been married for 12 years. We've always been a team when it comes to parenting our two kids, ages 9 and 6, but lately I've noticed a shift. Keith has become increasingly harsh with them, especially our oldest, "Ben." He'll snap over small things -- like a jacket left on the floor or a missed chore --...Read more
Asking Eric: After nearly half a century, holiday hostess reaches limit
Dear Eric: For the last 45 years or so I’ve hosted Thanksgiving for my family. I’ve had as many as 25 people. My sister has two sons, and they’ve always stayed with me. Quite frankly, it’s now an issue. Only one son comes but he now has three sons of his own, ranging from 22 to 8. My sister also stays with me. They come on Wednesday and ...Read more
When Marriage Changes Everything
Dear Annie: My younger sister "Natalie" got married this spring to a man none of us really know. They met online, and within six months, they were engaged. My parents were uneasy about how fast it all happened, but Natalie was sure. She said she'd never felt so connected to anyone.
Since the wedding, though, she's been pulling away from the ...Read more
Single File: Agree or Disagree? (Part 2)
Here's the second part of this quiz. Do you agree or disagree with the following statements?
--Everyone desirable is already taken.
--Marriage and children are the ultimate fulfillment for every woman.
--Being single is not normal.
--Being married is better than being single.
--Being an older single woman means being undesirable and out of ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How long does it take to get over a breakup?
As Neil Sedaka so beautifully and succinctly put it (in both boppy and ballad form… I personally prefer the latter!), breaking up is hard to do. Today, we have four questions, all revolving around breakups. They’re never easy, but with time, patience, and perspective, they can be manageable.
Q: How long does it take to get over a breakup?
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Ask Dating Coach Erika: How long does it take to get over a breakup?
As Neil Sedaka so beautifully and succinctly put it (in both boppy and ballad form… I personally prefer the latter!), breaking up is hard to do. Today, we have four questions, all revolving around breakups. They’re never easy, but with time, patience, and perspective, they can be manageable.
Q: How long does it take to get over a breakup?
...Read more
Ask Anna: She asked her friend to DM me to see if I'd cheat
Dear Anna,
I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year. Things have been great overall. But lately she’s become fixated on one of her close friends, not in a romantic way — more in a spiral of comparison. Her friend is pretty, but so is my girlfriend, except when she makes self-deprecating comments about how she “could never compete�...Read more
Asking Eric: Neighbor is putting himself in grave danger but won’t change
Dear Eric: I have a huge dilemma literally right across from our home. Our neighbor is a very nice man. Sometimes I do ask him what he’s going to do with all of his stuff in his yard. He just says he’ll keep it. He is a hoarder.
What I see is boxes and boxes stacked all along his driveway, down to his backyard, leaving a very narrow pathway...Read more
Family Ties After the Breakup
Dear Annie: My granddaughter dated a young man for four years before breaking things off about a year ago. During that time, he became part of our family in many ways. Even after the breakup, he continued coming to church with us every Sunday. In fact, we've grown closer in the past year, sharing pews, Sunday lunches and family stories. My ...Read more
Asking Eric: Wife struggles to keep holiday special after husband’s dementia diagnosis
Dear Eric: My husband has dementia; it’s getting worse by the month. I am the caregiver. Our daughter calls on her way home from work. Our son calls several times a week. They have been my rock. I lean on them and rely on their excellent advice and strong shoulders.
Our 55th wedding anniversary is several days before Christmas. Because of the...Read more
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